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I picked this guy up the other night and in the middle of a hot session (he was fucking me missionary style) he spat in my face and grunted: "Take my dick, bitch!" I was so shocked that I didn't know what to say or do. But the thing is that it kind of turned me on. I don't know about being called a bitch, but the spitting and the aggression was surprisingly hot. Am I weird?

Wet Willie

I  was at the baths the other night and I gave this guy head in my room.  After blowing him for about 15 minutes I decided to see where else this would go so I moved in for a kiss. "No kissing," he said, "I don't like that." What's up with that? I was a bit insulted – if my mouth is good  enough for his cock it should be good enough for his mouth.

-Lonely Lips

I've been seeing this guy off and on for a few weeks and I like him. The sex is mostly pretty hot. We both love kissing and sucking dick, so there's no problems there. But we're also both bottoms. Can this work out long term?

-That Empty Feeling

My partner and I have been together for more than two decades. We've had a lot of stuff going on over the past seven years like three of our four parents died and a huge financial crisis. These things have played havoc with our intimate life. I still love this guy. I'm just not sure how to put some zing back in the bedroom. We haven't been intimate for a long time.

-Bored in Bed

I always thought I was a good top. The other night after fucking a guy we were cuddling and I asked him how it was. He said, "Honey, if you want to learn how to be a good top you need to bottom." When I quizzed him a bit he said I was too hard, too fast. His comment has left me feeling insecure. Help.

-Top Down

I'm a little on the fem side. It's not a word I normally use, but for brevity and clarity, there it is. I see a lot of ads online that say "no fats, no fems." I'm pretty comfortable with who I am and I have a solid, gym-fit body, I have hang-ups like anyone else. But it's discouraging to think I have to "butch" it up just to get laid. Is this all there is for me?

-Fem Fella

My  boyfriend and I have never had anal sex. He said he wasn't into it when we met six months ago, but I've been patiently prodding and hoping I'd change his mind. I really like this guy a lot. I might even love him, but I don't know if I can be in a relationship where I never get fucked. What should I do?

-Running on Empty

I'm  straight, well, I thought I was. A few months ago, I caught myself  checking guys out on the street. I was too afraid to try anything, wasn't sure if I even wanted to at first. So I found GayDemon and I've been checking things out. I like a lot of what I see here, so does my cock, and I'm curious to try something with another guy. But I have no idea how to find a patient and caring guy who will take it slow and let me experiment. I think I want more than a quick blowjob in a park. Any ideas?

-Semi Straight

I want to propose to my boyfriend but I'm not sure how to pop the question in an exciting way. Radical ideas very welcome!
-Ready to Pop

You could make a giant production number and record it for YouTube viral posterity. Like a musical number starring family and friends, culminating in a grand proposal atop a grand piano on the Grand Concourse of Grand Central Station while a grandma fucks herself with a gravy-lubed dildo while grinning.

But YouTube would ban the video and you'd never get on Ellen to win a free vacation to Hawaii. 

What is cuckold? I've been seeing a lot of this porn around and I can't understand what it actually is. Each movie seems quite different.
-What the Cuck

It's this thing where a guy does this thing and there's this woman and there's a wife thing and a husband thing and a non-husband thing and a fucking thing and then usually some pancakes. But never waffles. Never waffles. Except in the Southern Hemisphere where it's all in reverse.

Does that clear it up?

My boyfriend has asked for an open relationship so that he can sleep with others to get his fix of fetishes we don't share. How can I deal with the jealousy?
-Green with Penis Envy

What are you jealous of exactly? Because it can't possibly be of experiencing fetishes you're not actually into. Oh darn, how you wish you could get tickled by a badminton racket. Alas, that will have to be just between him and his badminton sluts.

So it must be of the intimacy he's sharing with others in general. Or that you don't have fetishes of your own that he's not into. 

My butt really hurts after I used a huge toy on it while webcamming for a dominant guy. What could be wrong?
-Pain in the Ass

A whole hell of a lot is wrong. You better sit down to hear it. Or better yet, get on all fours as your butt is still so tender.

You haven't told me how to get in touch with the guy. He sounds fun and you're hogging him. That is so wrong.

Dominance only is cool and all, but being dominant comes with myriad responsibilities, to keep things safe, sane and consensual. That means your ass needs a toy that matches where you ass is at. And he should be encouraging you to pay attention to that. Sure, you can please him visually, but unlike the you that he sees, you're not two dimensional.

I suck at sucking cock. How can I do it better?
-Empty Mouth

Did you know after your mouth is empty, you can return it to get a 5 cent deposit back. Or maybe that's for soda bottles. So I guess no benefit in an empty mouth when you're hungry for cock.

Since you haven't done a terrible job sucking me, I'm not sure specifically where you're going wrong, so I'll try to cover a range of scenarios.

It's coming up to Christmas and my partner is one of those men that has everything and wants for nothing. What do you get a hot daddy type who enjoys the finer things in life? I'm so stuck, please help!
-Empty Handed Boy

This question implies that you spend time away from him when really your mouth should be latched onto his cock, sucking for dear life pretty much all the time. You did say, he enjoys the finer things in life, right? I assume you're talking about your body as it takes a lot to keep a hot daddy satisfied, what with all the competition. Got to be the best boy you can be, as there's plenty around the corner.

Oh wait, he cares about you the individual, not the type, and you care about him the individual, not the type.

I'm having trouble coming to terms with some of the things my new roommate is into. Every night he has 2 or 3 guys round and gets tag teamed, or hosts a mini group session. I need my sleep and the headboard banging constantly is making me tired at work. What should I say to him?
-STFU

Say you're absolutely sick of him having a headboard and that he needs to not have a headboard. Instead offer to buy him some wall cushions made especially for group fucks. IKEA has a whole line of these for cheap. The same IKEA that actually has sold a computer desk with the name JERKR. Not kidding. They understand.

Alternately, you can ask to participate because considering how much energy is being expended you would certainly be drained after. So probably get some sleep at a different time of day in advance, so you need less sleep before getting up in the morning.