Ask GayDemon: Spitting Image

I picked this guy up the other night and in the middle of a hot session (he was fucking me missionary style) he spat in my face and grunted: "Take my dick, bitch!" I was so shocked that I didn't know what to say or do. But the thing is that it kind of turned me on. I don't know about being called a bitch, but the spitting and the aggression was surprisingly hot. Am I weird?

Wet Willie

Yes, you are weird. Take my answer, bitch!

Though you aren't actually asking if you're weird. You're asking for permission to enjoy what you already enjoyed. And to seek it out. Ask for it. Beg for it.

And you're right to still have boundaries. At this point, you know the physical aggression, even the sudden nature of it, the feeling of it, turned you on. While the word bitch pretty much didn't. Though it wasn't such a deal breaker it turned you off, it wasn't an added turn on.

And you want to be turned on. Good.

So think of all the moments and places spitting can go down. Maybe you're at a fancy restaurant with the guy and he spits on your while you're sharing dinner rolls. Maybe he makes it look like an accident while you two are with a group by telling a story laced with lots of the letter p. Like "This Pretty Prick here loves Porking out on my Penis nonstoP. Oh, sorry did I sPit on you?"

Sorry, that's totally implausible. Like he'd take you out to a fancy dinner.

But no, you're not weird. You learned a new kink you're into. Now have fun with it, and remember you still have power and boundaries. Being submissive doesn't mean being silent and passive. You like the aggression. You like him to focus his energy on you. His mouth on you. His spit on you. See the connection? You, you hot little weirdo. Now go have fun.

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