Ask GayDemon: Cocksucking Fail

I suck at sucking cock. How can I do it better?
-Empty Mouth

Did you know after your mouth is empty, you can return it to get a 5 cent deposit back. Or maybe that's for soda bottles. So I guess no benefit in an empty mouth when you're hungry for cock.

Since you haven't done a terrible job sucking me, I'm not sure specifically where you're going wrong, so I'll try to cover a range of scenarios.

First off, don't assume because you want to suck cock you innately know how. Even looking at porn suckers just shows you what it sort of looks like, not how to actually do it. You can watch a gymnast do a double twisting double layout on floor and that doesn't mean you can instantly do it.

The overall key is only suck a cock you want to suck. For you that may mean having gotten to know someone really well first and being all romantic. Or it could mean hooking up in a public toilet. Either way, you need to want it. And that includes wanting to make the guy feel good.

You don't have to deep throat. You really don't. You can wrap your hand around the base and keep a good grip (and jack it a bit) while you lick and suck the head and some of the shaft.

Now is a good time to visualize. Gymnasts do and so can you. Visualize having fun with it, looking the guy in the eyes, and not judging yourself. You could even turn it into a scene where you tell the guy you're not very experienced at it and you want him to guide you.

That doesn't mean grab the back of your head and plunge the toilet that is your face. But rather communicate to you what feels good, when to change it up, ideas on different angles, sweet spots on his cock, and all the other body zones you can bring into it to keep it going.

Cocksucking is about more than cock. And even about more than inner thighs, lower abdomen, taint, sack all that. You're not just touching a floating cock (unless it's a glory hole thing). You're touching a person and their cock is connected to all of them. It's just another form of touch.

Getting sucked is a good way to learn too. Ask an expert how you can suck him just as well. He may be a bassoon player and have amazing breath control, so don't necessarily feel the need to imitate. You can have your own style. But there may be some technical tips around angles, breathing, relaxing, suction and other stuff that can help you out.

And if you happen to be not amazing at cocksucking at the moment, oh fucking well. It's not a race. But it certainly is something you can enjoy practicing. And if you don't have hoards of repeats, well that's fine too.

Just know that if you're really visibly frustrated, as if you expect a guy to blow his load just from your ministrations, that itself is more of a turn off than not having a vacuum cleaner mouth. Some guys like being sucked but to go over the edge requires their own hand. There are more ways to make a guy feel good than with your mouth.

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