How-To Guide to Kinks & Pup Play

by Alex

18 Oct 2018 6290 readers Score 8.6 (19 votes) PDF Mobi ePub Txt


There are many wonderful kinks in the world for us to experiment with and pick which ones we enjoy. But for me, there is none more fun to play with than Pup Play. When you mention the words “pup play” to someone, you’re bound – get it, you’re bound, HA! – Anyway, you’re bound to get an odd look because most don’t understand it. Some assume that’s the new term used for people describing themselves as a furry or some even go as far as to assume you’re admitting to them that you’re attracted to actual, biological dogs (bestiality). But it’s not either of those. Pup play is its own thing which proudly stands as a wonderful and ruff-ing good time without coming close to furry or bestiality. While some of my friends who are pups as well, all of whom are members of my pack, understand the difference; many still do not and thus I decided to write this how-to guide to explain not only what Pup Play is but how it works and some of the “rules” of the playfulness.

What is Pup Play?

 Pup Play is the new form of BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Submission, and Masochism). While some still like to be bound, gagged, and hung from a swing while getting their ass fucked by their dominant partner – wow that would be amazing by the way -, some kinky lovers like to go a little farther into the roles of dominant and submissive by playing the characters of Pup and Handler.

The best way to describe it is by thinking of a normal kink such as schoolboy and teacher or nurse and patient. Just like with these sets of kinks, there are no real rules to Pup Play. Just because one man is the schoolboy doesn’t mean he’s the bottom in a sexual act and the teacher is the top. Let’s face it, we have all seen adult films where the teacher lets his schoolboy be the top. Similarly, just because a man is a Pup doesn’t mean he’s the bottom in a sexual act and the Handler is the top. A handler could very easily allow his Pup to ride him doggie-style in a Pup Play night.

An important thing to note is that if both of you or your entire “pack” of pups want to play then it is perfectly fine to switch up the roles from time to time so neither of you has to always be the pup or the handler.

But most importantly, liking Pup Play doesn’t mean you want to be an actual dog. Some people seem to get confused when they start thinking about some members of the LGBTQ identifying as neither a man or a woman. Some seem to hear the words Pup Play and think some of us identify as actual puppies. And I’m sure there is someone, somewhere who identifies this way but for the most part, Pup Play is simply a BDSM role we play on very special nights with our friends and our partners.

How Are We Introduced to Pup Play?

 For some, we are introduced to Pup Play through our partners. For instance, when you get a boyfriend, they might enjoy it and ask to try it out one day in the bedroom. For others, it is something we find at a gay bar or a gay pride event. And for others like me, we just stumble upon Pup Play one night when we are searching for a more interesting porn than the normal twink video. For me, that was the case. I stumbled upon a porn where a guy was holding a leash to a boy in the middle of the screen who was kneeling on the floor and looking up at him and his friend, who the handler invited over so they could both get blowjobs from the pup. I realized that night that I freaking loved Pup Play and I needed to not only experiment with it more but dive in when I someday found a boyfriend. And you might ask why I knew I loved Pup Play just from one video. Well, I shot more than I ever did in my life that night because of it and that’s how I knew it was for me.

When I went to my first gay pride event, I saw a group of pups walking around with masks and leashes on and I went right over to join in the party. I didn’t have a mask or any gear but one bark and I was in the middle of the puppy circle and I joined the rest in dancing to the music and howling at the air.

Why Play Pup?

For some, it’s a chance to let your inner animal out to play. A chance to let your wild side show a bit and not be so refined to actual, human words or actions for a few hours. For others like me, it could include that but it’s also a way to play the dominant and submissive roles a bit in the bedroom and shake up the normal…to add a little spice to your love life if you will.

The Pup (Submissive):

Being the Pup means throughout the night of fun you are going to get told what to do and when to do it. You must follow your Handlers’ orders and if you don’t, expect to be disciplined.

The Handler (Dominant):

Being the Handler means you give the orders. You have to tell your Pup when you want something done, what you want done, and how you want them to do it. If they don’t follow your orders precisely then you need to teach your Pup that you are in charge, otherwise they will take over your home.

The Gear:

 There are hundreds of items you could use in the bedroom to compliment the Pup Play lifestyle; however, there are some key items you may want to get for the bedroom to get things started. Some of them are expensive but there are cheaper alternatives to each of them or you could opt not to get that piece of gear until you see how much you enjoy the roles after a few nights with your partner or party.

Mask – These come in a variety of colors, sizes, and designs. Some like me opt to use a headband with puppy ears from an adult Halloween costume instead of an expensive mask. One day I would love a mask but at the moment, all I could afford is a headband with pup ears which suits me and my kink perfectly fine. Plus, my ears are absolutely adorable and comfortable.

Bone or Gag – Some choose to go all out and get a proper sex gag for this but for me, I prefer to have a bone to chew on like a real dog. The only time I am allowed to put down the bone and let it out of my mouth during playtime is when I have my handler’s bone in my mouth instead. This also allows us to play fetch and other games in the bedroom to get us both in the mood.

Collar and Leash – This is so you can never walk too far from your handler and so you don’t just run away or get stolen. While you could purchase your own collar and leash from an adult shop which is specific to Pup Play, this can get quite expensive for an item you won’t be wearing every day, all day while out and about at your job and such. For this reason, I suggest getting a collar and leash from an online store like Amazon where you can find a wide and comfortable collar which is big enough to fit your neck and a leash at a more affordable price. Sure, they are made for actual dogs but no one will notice the difference.

Harness – This isn’t a mandatory item and is only used if you want to spend the money on a proper harness and want something more substantial to connect your leash to instead of something around your neck which could potentially choke you if you aren’t careful in the bedroom.

Tail – I’ll be honest, I had no idea this was a thing until a member of my pack showed me his and I was amazed. Tails come in two variations. One is called Show Tails and is connected to your belt of your pants for outdoor use and the other is called a Pup Play Butt Plug and is actually inserted like a Butt Plug into your anus and is kept there until your Handler replaces it with his bone during sex.

Paws – Many pups decide to cover their hands and knees to protect them from hard flooring while walking on their hands and knees or during bedroom play. This prevents them from using their hands to caress their partner during sex which goes even further into the whole role of not being able to use their hands and having to use their tongue, mouth, and ass even more. You could go the more economical route and just get a set of gloves and kneepads from your local hardware store. Unless you tell the cashier what they are for, no one will know why you’re truly buying them.

Partner Play / Pack Play / Pup Mosh:

 Partner play is when a Pup and his handler have sex all on their own while playing the roles of handler and pup. Pack play is when a group of pups who all know each other and are friends with one another get together to play all together with or without their handlers in attendance. Think of this like a puppy play date. This may mean the pups get together to chase balls around a park or a backyard or play with their toys. But this may also mean they have sex with one another all night long. Pup mosh may describe a friendly meetup of pups who do not know each other to play or meet up together to have sex in a group setting.

It's important to remember that not everyone likes Pup Play so be courteous of others. If you decide to meet up in a Pack or Mosh, remember to ask the bar or the event if they are Pup-friendly. And for goodness sake, don’t try humping or rubbing your muzzle in someone’s lap if you don’t already know they like Pup Play just as much as you.

Being a Part of a Pack:

A Pup can have an unlimited number of friends. For a biological puppy, their group of friends is called a pack and thus, that’s where we get our name for our groups. A pack can just be a group of friends who all mutually love Pup Play. They could also be a group of Pups who get together on play dates and play with their puppy toys and such in games such as fetch. They could also go as far as to have doggie-style sex with one another and still go home to their handlers (if they are in open relationships). Or they could also just be friends who share toys and advice with one another but who never meet in person.

For my pack, we are a group of friends who have known each other long before we knew we all liked Pup Play and long before we came out as gay. When we did find that out, we shared pictures of our toys with one another, sexted each other quite a bit in the beginning, and we still share advice with one another on a regular basis. But now that we all have boyfriends, we don’t sext or even think about sex with one another anymore.

“Rules” of Pup Play:

 While there are no set and strict rules of Pup Play, many general guidelines can be followed at first to get you started. This way you can see what you like and don’t like and change things up to fit how you want to play in the bedroom.

  • The handler and pup need to have an immense amount of respect for one another before entering their roles. This way if the handler decides to punish the pup for something during their roles, they don’t assume it means more than what the roles intend it to mean. During pup play, a pup may lightly bite their handler just for the sole reason that they want to get spanked. Sometimes a pup will purposefully act up or not follow a command just so they get punished. For this reason, it is not advisable to play the handler and pup roles during “make-up sex” as it may get confusing as to what punishment or command is simply the role and what is a carry-over from the fight earlier.
  • Both the pup and the handler need to understand what each other is comfortable with before playing the roles. It is not advisable to play these roles the first time you have sex with one another as you may not be aware of what is comfortable for one another yet. Playing these roles allows you some freedom but that doesn’t mean you can go beyond what your partner is comfortable with. For instance, if you have a rather large dick and your partner doesn’t like it when you shove it deeper into their mouth than they can handle; if you play the role of the handler one night, you need to still work your role inside of that boundary and not shove your dick farther in than your partner is comfortable with. Neither of you should ever feel uncomfortable during this roleplay as it is only meant to enhance your sexual experience and love for each other, not cause you discomfort or hatred.
  • If you play the role of the Pup, you need to dress the part all day. This isn’t just a nighttime role in the bedroom. Consider wearing a jockstrap all day long. Make your handler buy all the food during your date that night as a real owner of a dog would.
  • If you play the role of the Handler, take your pup to the park and walk around with him. He has the option of getting on all four paws in front of other people depending on how comfortable he is with other people seeing him and how uncomfortable those people may be around the situation but this shows him that you want him to be your pup later that night and shows him you love him and will take him to his favorite spot in town. If you want your pup to love you and follow your orders, you need to show him respect and love first.
  • A pup can buy his own leash and collar before they meet a perfect handler but once you become boyfriends, know your pup wants you to tag him. And by this I do NOT mean brand him, I mean he wants you to get a dog tag at a local pet shop and write your name and your phone number on it just like you would for a real puppy. This way if he gets lost, he can always be identified by his pup name and find his way back home to you. If your boyfriend likes pup play but doesn’t have a collar and leash yet, know this is a perfect Birthday or Christmas present for them. Even if you are not into Pup Play, you should be the one to get him his collar and tag no matter what. Your boyfriend likes it and you should be willing to meet him half way and allow him to indulge every once in a while. But also know if you give them a tag with your name on it, you are their handler for hopefully life and because it is the ultimate sign of love you can show your pup, he very well might take you to his bedroom and let you fuck him again and again for seven days straight after words. For this reason, never give your pup a collar or any pup sex items while around friends or family. Just because both of you are into the roles doesn’t mean your families and friends will be – and your boyfriend might not ever want his friends or family to know. That said, he might take some selfies or want you to take his picture with his new collar and tag so he can show all his pup friends in his pack.

These next few really depend on how far into the role you want to play but I like them all so I wanted to mention them before we start talking about rules in the bedroom.

  • A pup’s home is not the house you live in. A pup’s “home” and safe place is in their handler’s crotch. It is the only place they feel safe in and thus, they rest their head in their owner’s crotch as much as possible. They greet their handler after a day of work with rubbing their nose (muzzle) into their handler’s crotch area. This is extra fun for both the pup since he likes his “home” and likes his handler’s bone most of all but for the handler it is fun too since it’s basically like your pup groping you with their head when you come home from work.
  • Some pups also decide to greet their handlers at the door after a day at work with a blowjob since (even though the pup may have a real job too) they are playing the part of a puppy who was home all day and alone, waiting for their owner.
  • A pup can only piss outdoors in their backyard. If you have a backyard that is fenced in with privacy fencing, you must go outside to relieve yourself all day and all night. Because of the mess, many pups still take a number 2 in their toilets but many pups still piss outside in their yard.
  • As a pup; because you will be on all four paws and most humans cannot take a piss without touching their dick, your owner must take you out every time you have to go and he is the only one who can touch your dick to make you start your stream.
  • You and your partner can decide on this one but many pup couples decide to go one step further. Whoever is playing the role of the pup that night must wrap their lips around their handler’s cock whenever their handler has to take a piss and drink every drop – aka, drink from the tap. Other couples decide to have the handler give their pup a golden shower every time they shower together. This requires the pup to get down on all fours in the shower or outside in an enclosed backyard and while completely nude, sit like a pup would with his front paws on the ground but sitting on his butt or just lie on their back, all the while getting pissed on by their handler. The handler can decide if he wants to piss just on their pup’s belly or if he wants to shoot some on his pup’s face and dick too.
  • You must only wear pup outfits around the house. If company comes over one day, this rule changes but otherwise you as a pup have to be on all four paws and never wear human clothes around your house. You are merely allowed a jockstrap to prevent you from seeing your dick all day and it bouncing around and hurting you. Otherwise, pup outfits, pup tail butt plug and collar all day, every day while you are home.
  • Most handlers decide to cage their pups while they are away from one another. This way the pup can’t get into any trouble. This could mean having an actual dog kennel in your home your pup goes into when you go to the store or it could mean (and for most it means) getting a cock cage and putting it on your pup so they cannot get aroused without it hurting them. This way the pup cannot touch himself to jerk off or play with others. The only time he is allowed to cum is when his handler allows him to.
  • For most handlers, they allow their pup to eat at the kitchen table like everyone else when company comes over but for most, when no one else is around, the pup can eat at the table but he has to eat out of a dog bowl instead of off a plate or human bowl. For some, they don’t allow even this. The pup must sometimes eat from their dog bowl off the floor and scraps the handler decides to give them. That said, only do this every so often as extensive use of this treatment can lead to the actual human playing the role of the pup becoming depressed and not thinking of himself as an equal to the handler. Again, this goes back to making sure you have the utmost respect for one another and both understand you are only playing roles like characters in a play.
  • For some couples, the pup must service the handler with their mouth before they are fed their nightly meal in order to thank the handler for cooking. For others, the pup is allowed to eat their meal first but has to service their handler after a meal to have his desert.
  • Pups can get a shower in the human shower but it is up to the handler to wash them, just like a real puppy would be like. For some couples, the pup must wash the handler and then wash himself. For others, the handler must wash both himself and the pup. And for others still, the pup washes the handler and the handler washes the pup.
  • Most handlers allow their pups to sleep right beside them in bed and this is good to build a healthy relationship with closeness every night. But some handlers make pups sleep on their dog beds on the floor on certain nights to entice the roles a little further. It is important not to overuse this as it may cause you and your partner to drift apart from not sleeping side-by-side.
  • At all times during a relationship but especially during sex, the handler must show his appreciation to his pup by praising him. This could be by saying “good puppy” and petting behind his puppy ears or praising the pup while jerking or groping the pup’s dick through his jockstrap.

Now finally onto the fun part, Pup Play Sex Rules:

  • If a handler is in the mood for sex, the pup must do as he is told – but if the pup is not comfortable, the handler has to have the respect and love for the pup enough to know when is not the right time.
  • If the pup is in the mood, they cannot say it to their owner. They must show it by dry-humping furniture or their handler’s leg or rubbing their cock against their handler’s ass to show their handler what they want.
  • To take off the handler’s clothing, the pup must use his teeth like a real pup would and only use his paws but not his fingers. The handler can help with this but try your best to immerse yourself in the role early on into the night.
  • During sex, a pup must wear his full pup outfit. This includes having a bone in his mouth, his pup tail butt plug in his ass (which many pups choose to use lube to insert so it doesn’t have as much friction), his collar and leash on (and possibly harness), and any sort of mask or other items on at all times. The only time a pup is allowed to not have his bone in his mouth is if the handler has his dick in his pup’s mouth and is getting a blowjob from the pup. The only time the pup is allowed to not have the tail in his ass is when his handler is using his ass for anal play.
  • During sex, a pup must only use puppy words such as ruff and woof to respond to commands. Some couples decide to allow the pup to use some human phrases such as “I want your milk”, “it tastes so good daddy”, and “Can I get my treat now?” among others.
  • If the handler decides to be the bottom in their bedroom, the pup must do as he is commanded and be the top but since he is a pup, he doesn’t know any other way to be a top than in the doggie-style position so the handler must understand this. You can use other positions other nights but when in these roles of pup and handler many opt to stay true to their characters and only do things doggie-style.
  • Regardless, the pup must first sniff his handler’s ass to get himself aroused first and to identify his handler since this is how real puppies identify one another.
  • If the handler decides to be the top in the bedroom, the pup cannot touch himself until the handler is done and has cummed wherever the handler wanted to shoot his load. Again, this is where trust and respect come into play where if the handler knows their pup doesn’t like swallowing cum, then they shouldn’t force their pup to do so after they shoot their load in their pup’s mouth.
  • Only when instructed is the pup allowed to even consider touching himself. Typically, during Pup Play sex, the pup must keep his dick inside of his jockstrap or not touch it at all, not even the handler touches his pup’s dick until the handler cums first unless the handler decides differently. This way the pup builds up as much precum as possible and soaks his jockstrap which the pup may want to sniff.
  • Typically, in Pup Play how the pup is allowed to cum depends on how good of a job he did as a pup. For instance, if he did really well as a pup and didn’t act up too much, the handler may decide to allow the pup to fuck him doggie-style and cum in the handler’s ass. If the pup acted up a few times, the handler may decide the pup is only allowed to get a blowjob to make him cum. If a pup bites the handler, the handler may decide the pup is only allowed to jerk himself off or hump the mattress or pillows until he cums. And if a pup doesn’t follow orders a lot or bites the handler a lot, the handler may decide the pup is not allowed to cum at all. This encourages the pup to do a good job and keep following orders. For this reason, if the pup wants a certain thing to get him off, he knows exactly how much to act up to get that reward. Some pups want anal as a reward so they are a perfect pup. Some prefer to get blowjobs so they act up a little. And so on.
  • If a pup wants to be punished, he can sometimes not follow an order or lightly bite his handler. It is important to not bite too hard as to not actually hurt the handler but just enough to get the point across that you’re trying to be a bad puppy and trying to get punished.
  • While a pup may like to get punished, he cannot show it at any time. He must turn around and get spanked on the ass or get lightly choked or something similar and at no point can show he enjoys it even though he should.
  • If a handler decides to cum inside of his pup’s ass, the pup must keep it there and not run to the bathroom right away to push it out. He must keep it there and sleep on his side or belly as to keep the cum in his ass as long as possible until morning. The handler may also decide to put the pup tail butt plug back into the pup’s ass after sex as to ensure his cum stays in his pup all night.
  • If the handler decides to cum in his pup’s mouth and if the pup is okay and used to swallowing his load, the pup must hold the load in his mouth until his handler approves of him swallowing it. The handler must give permission within a reasonable time frame but still the rule stands, he can’t swallow until commanded to.
  • If the pup is rewarded with a blowjob as for doing a good job, the handler must not swallow his pups load unless he really wants to. Most times, he must feed his pup’s milk back to his pup through a French kiss or just by letting it drip into his pup’s mouth.
  • If a pup is only allowed to jerk himself off after doing a good job but after acting up a little for his handler, the pup must wipe up his cum off of his chest with his paws and lick himself clean. He isn’t allowed to get a shower after but has to sleep like that all night.
  • So far, we’ve mentioned the bedroom but a handler can decide he wants his pup to service him at anytime, anywhere – even in public if both of them, and those around them are comfortable with the situation. Some pup play nights at bars or nudist camps are even open to pups servicing their handlers in the middle of their bar but check to make sure of this before just pulling your dick out for all to see. A good sign this is allowed is if you see other pups doing the same when you enter. I’ve even heard of nudist camps where pups walk around with their tails in and service their handlers wherever they like out in the open. And there’s even trails you can take in the woods to find a lonely pup who is willing to service you or a lonely handler looking to be serviced. Again, it’s important to remember what your partner is comfortable with before entering the roles so if your partner doesn’t want to do anal without lube and condoms, do not force him to do anal in a secluded area without lube or condoms. With that said, the handler could take his pup for a walk and mid-walk decide he wants his pup to service him either by mouth or ass in the woods or in a secluded restroom or in his car. It is the pup’s job to be there to service his handler at anytime, anywhere. If the pup is not comfortable with a certain situation, the handler must have the respect and love for the pup enough to realize the difference between playful disobedience and plain and simple discomfort in a situation.

With all of this said, these rules are mere suggestions which you may change slightly to fit your wants and needs. But regardless, have fun out there fellow Pups.