The use of hot wax, to inflict pain on a submissive, in BDSM sex play.



The infliction of pain is as old as civilization, as man. There is not accurate way to determine, when or where, the use of hot burning wax, was first used, to inflict pain on others, or for when it became used in a form of sexual foreplay.


People have different tolerances for heat, so care needs to be taken, when engaging in Wax Play.

The most common usage, is to apply the wax on various naked body parts of the submissive.

MINERAL OIL: Applying a generous coating of mineral oil, to the submissive's naked body, will help ease the actual removal of the cooled wax, once the session has expired, or even during if repeated application is to occur.

If that is the case, re-application of the Mineral Oil should also be applied, prior to any further wax application.

However, care needs to be taken, as those different parts, can tolerate different levels of heat.

Application is usually from the dripping of the wax, from a height above the body part.

The submissive is generally in a bound position.

NOTE: Care needs to be taken to insure that wax does not splash into the eyes or face of the submissive. Protective shields or coverings, should be used.

The angle of holding the candle, can aid in determining the flow of the wax, and by adjusting can make the wax drip quickly for a time, or slowly.

Many suggest that having the submissive blindfolded, aids in the pleasure of Wax Play.

Use of different candles, can also be included in the play, to alter the sensations being experienced.

Sensitive body parts are most often, the best subject for casual wax play, as the intensity is increased at those points.

Care needs to be taken, to insure no damage is created from the hot wax.

Wax Play can be used over time, during a particular sex session.

Other forms, involve using a ladle (or spoon), to apply the hot liquid to the submissive's naked body.

CAUTION: If using melted wax, from a pot, great care needs to be taken, to insure that the wax is properly melted and vigorously stirred, PRIOR to application.

The reason is that lumps can occur, or impartial melting of the wax, can happen, which leads to widely different temperatures of the product.

Simply put, the wax can have some serious hot spots, that can cause extreme burns, that could require medical treatment.

WARNING: When applying the wax, it can pool in various body spots, which can wind up concentrating the heat, so care needs to be taken, to insure an even application, where possible.

Practice (Associated Acts):

Pure Paraffin candles burn at around 135 degrees Fahrenheit.

Candles, with stearine, will burn hotter, at around 160 degrees Fahrenheit.

Softer candles, like those found in jars, are usually mixed with mineral oil, which burn at a lower temperature. That is usually around 120 degrees Fahrenheit.

Pillar Candles usually have Stearine, so they burn hotter.

Beeswax composite candles, will burn at about 10 degrees hotter than normal Stearine composite candles.


Different candles, burn at different temperatures, thus care needs to be taken, to avoid undue burns, that can leave a mark.

Knowing the candle burning temperatures, also aids in controlling the amount of pain being inflicted on a subject.

Skin conditions, diseases, or medications being taken, need to be accounted for, prior to engaging in Wax Play.

Reactions can occur.

If the use of any ordinary candle, still produces too much heat for the submissive, a blend of wax with a higher concentration of Mineral Oil, can substantially reduce the heat or temperature.

Use of a slow cooker, can produce the type of wax composite desired, if ordinary store bought candles are found to be impractical.

In addition, increasing the drop height, by about a meter, will drop the landing temperature by about 5 degrees.

Special Note: Wax can be difficult to remove, when cooled, especially if covering skin that has hair. A knife may even be needed to help scrape the cooled wax off the body. A plastic credit card, or flea comb can be used, easier than a knife.

Wax is very difficult to remove from bedding or clothing, so care should be used to avoid that risk, by keeping such articles out of the way, or proximity to the action.

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