Ask GayDemon: Big Dick Drama

22 Jan 2017

Ask GayDemon: Big Dick Drama

I have a big cock, it's a little over 10 inches. And while I have no problem getting sex, I sometimes feel like I'm just being used for my big penis. How do I get guys to see that I'm more than a pogo stick to ride?

-Hung Up

Let's see. Time for gay math. Claimed penis length times 0.827 divided by pi + the square root of Rock Hudson = you have a 8.6-inch penis. Congrats!

Now let's talk about your definition of sex, because I think it should encapsulate that you actual enjoy it. And maybe some of the times you feel used for your big penis are fun. And some of the times you feel used for your big penis are not.

But maybe none of the times do you ever imagine or feel that a guy is having sex with you for some other reason besides your big penis? But unless you exclusively have sex through glory holes, there are other reasons. There are lots of guys with big dicks. Or biggish. Or even giant if you really are over 10 inches. But guys are choosing to have sex with you.

Imagine you pick some other characteristic about yourself, like your eyes or your cheekbones or your biceps or your, well, bank account. How do you know each would or wouldn't be the sole reason a guy is having sex with you? Just because dramatic sexual utterances like fuck me with your big bank account are a tad rarer than fuck me with your big dick, doesn't mean a big dick is the only factor.

You need to see yourself as more than a big dick. And accept that others do too. In fact, you may be relying on your dick to draw men in instead of other aspects of your body, personality, energy, humor, or some combination of everything.

I could suggest you date someone and keep your cock hidden away to see if they are interested in you regardless. But as soon as they see it, if you believe that's all you are to someone, that belief will kick in, erasing your recent experience with them when you were everything but a big dick.

So look within and know you are more than a big dick. But also have fun with your big dick and if it can turn on a guy, good. But it's not just the inches. It's how you use it. But more so who you are.

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